Fatherless

Fatherless

Most of our families are starving for fathers, even if Dad is around, and there’s a huge cost to our children and our society because of it.

from Father Hunger, by Douglas Wilson

Churches were full on Mother’s Day…but what about Father’s Day? A friend of mine told me he never goes to church on Father’s Day, “All they do is tell us how bad we are at being Dad’s.” Interesting thought to ponder.

I sat with a young lady today who just turned 21. She is quiet, withdrawn and fearful. She just graduated from a prestigious university, is considering law school, yet has a hard time in a group of people. She was not always this way. In Middle School she was vivacious, full of energy and excitement. But as she grew older that all began to die. Her father is negative, boisterous, and verbally aggressive, and over time, he killed her spirit. Dad would say he loves his daughter, always has, just wants what is best for her, but he killed her spirit!

To make matters worse Dad and the family are believers, regular church goers. The daughter chooses not to participate anymore. Worshiping God for an hour and then protecting her spirit for the rest of the week did not make sense to her. She is now trying to “find herself again” but a hunger for God or anything Spiritual died a long time ago.
One of my greatest responsibilities as a dad is to create in our children a hunger for our creator! Let’s be honest, many dads feel like we have failed in this area and we’ve given up. I just finished eating lunch with Jenn and Marina. For some reason Marina could not stop hugging me. I was profoundly reminded of the influence and responsibility I have in that little girl’s life. Paul says in Ephesians 6:4; Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

What is you plan for Father’s Day? Why not tell your family you want to start the day with them in church. I love the words of Michael Jordan’s Father, “It is never too late to do anything you wanted to do; you never know what you can accomplish until you try!” I know Father’s Day is a week and a half away; but why not set the agenda now for your family for Father’s Day! 

Have a spectacular day. I am praying for you. Let’s talk again tomorrow.